I will be hosting a traditional meeting at my house on Saturday. I made a big mistake by telling the girls about it in advance. These days one of the first things they ask when they wake up is, “Is the meeting today?” They are so excited that I regret sharing the plan days ahead. That was not a smart move as a mom. Here are some things I’ve learned to make life easier:
Never announce outings or parties too early. If you tell your kids you’re going somewhere or hosting an event, they will ask about it nonstop until the day arrives. Keep plans close to the vest when possible.
Eat treats privately. If you want to enjoy chocolate or a special snack, go to the bathroom or your bedroom so the kids don’t notice. Small pleasures last longer when they’re not immediately claimed by little hands.
Keep snacks and cups within reach for them. Storing frequently used items at an arm’s length saves you from constant trips to fetch things. It’s an easy way to reduce interruptions and stress.
Create a simple after-work ritual. My girls and I press our palms together and shout “Team! Work!” when we finish chores. It turns work into a shared, fun activity and makes them more eager to help because they associate it with the “team” moment.
Order takeout when needed. Even if you often cook, some days it’s fine to skip the kitchen. If there are no leftovers, place an order and don’t feel guilty. Rest and convenience are valid choices.
Tell stories about your childhood. My girls can listen to stories from my own childhood for ages. I’m running out of tales, so I call my mom for reminders. Sharing memories builds connection and keeps their imaginations engaged.
Pray for them consistently. If prayer is part of your life, making it a habit for your children’s wellbeing is a meaningful gift. Putting their lives in God’s hands brings peace and perspective.
Laugh often. Don’t become the perpetually angry mom. Enjoy fun moments with your children; they grow up fast, and laughter makes the time more joyful.
Apologize when you’re wrong. Saying “I’m sorry” to your child can be difficult, but humility teaches a powerful lesson. Admitting mistakes models responsibility and healthy relationships.
Take time for yourself. Go shopping alone, hang out with friends, or have a mom’s night out. Recharging outside the home helps you return calmer and more present.
Read to them every day. Whether it’s a short story or a long one, daily reading nurtures a love of books. Children who grow up in reading-rich environments often become curious, informed adults.
Save cartons and packages. Don’t throw away boxes and containers right away—let kids play with them. Big cartons can become cars, and cereal boxes can be turned into simple puzzles. Such low-cost toys encourage creativity and problem-solving.
Let them play in the rain—at your own risk. If you’re prepared for an extra bath, outdoor puddle time can be a memorable, joyful experience for children.
Finally, how do I “untell” my kids about Saturday’s meeting without lying? That’s the real question. You can’t erase what’s been said, but you can soften expectations: explain that the plan changed, offer an alternative special activity close to the original date, or frame the meeting as postponed rather than canceled. Honest, calm communication and a new small treat or family ritual can help ease disappointment without resorting to deceit.